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I have been dating a wonderful man for almost 2 years. I love everything about him but something is getting in the way. I am 36 and still cute ,he is 42 and in great shape. I hate the way he dresses most of the time. He is stuck in the 80's, He wears Bill Cosby sweaters and stonewashed jeans.Even owns a leather Bugs Bunny jacket!! It makes me want to run and hide. It is embarassing. He has other clothes from Express and even Target that are contemporary and what people wear today. I don't know what to do. It is a hard thing to bring up because do not want to be mean to him, but he never gets my hint. Even when we go shopping together or I suggest cleaning closets. I want to be with him, but this is seriously effecting how attracted to him I am. I sometimes find myself in "friend mode". Please share.. and no offense, but no kids please. I am being serious about this. I would like to hear from those in adult aged relationships. I don't want to break up, but this is driving me away.
Thanks for the answers, there are many that have caused me to think. It is a good relationship...but not too much to ask for him to be a little current. As for him expressing personal style- he has no concept of that. He is functional. He is a guy: he needs to wear pants and a shirt, so he wears pants and a shirt. That's all there is to it. No other thought. I know I sounded snobbish and materialistic, but it is not like that. I have been given a lot to think about and I appreciate all the honest answers. Thanks, everyone. I will take it all to heart, really. It helps to hear from real people on this. Happy Thanksgiving.
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I am 39, my wife is 30. She is young and cute (actress/model) I am older and average. Sounds similar. The hardest thing for me when it came to fashion was listening to her. I, too, was stuck in the 80's (not quite as bad, but still there) when it came to jeans, tshirts, and shoes. She wore me down but did let me know she loved me. She pointed out that most women know what looks good and that fashion changes (where I was not changing). The newer fashions were harder to accept for me (too macho I guess). however, she would point out things she liked and start changing my wardrobe one outfit at a time. Mostly though, she would point out how fashion changes. Just because you love him does not mean you should not rag on his rags. It is not a personal attack, just advice and preferances. He should not take it personally. let him know what you think about how he dresses ... if he does not relent, he has issues. Most men stick with what is comfortable to them, you have to make him comfortable with something new. I have gotten to the point that I can dress myself (LOL!) but I still run things by the wife from haircuts, to clothing combinations.
Get a few GQ and contenmporary magazines and start showing him how fashion is changing. I had a hard time getting into the loose clothing and untucked shirts and such, but now that I am comfortable with change, I have no issues with it.
The big thing is getting him comfortable with change ... it's likely not about his clothing but going with what is comfortable and "safe" for him. Haveing to think about fashion is threatening to many men.
Force him into an outfit you like ... then REALLY let him know you like it ... much like pavlovs dogs, he will come around through conditioning. thats my two cents :)
I am 39, my wife is 30. She is young and cute (actress/model) I am older and average. Sounds similar. The hardest thing for me when it came to fashion was listening to her. I, too, was stuck in the 80's (not quite as bad, but still there) when it came to jeans, tshirts, and shoes. She wore me down but did let me know she loved me. She pointed out that most women know what looks good and that fashion changes (where I was not changing). The newer fashions were harder to accept for me (too macho I guess). however, she would point out things she liked and start changing my wardrobe one outfit at a time. Mostly though, she would point out how fashion changes. Just because you love him does not mean you should not rag on his rags. It is not a personal attack, just advice and preferances. He should not take it personally. let him know what you think about how he dresses ... if he does not relent, he has issues. Most men stick with what is comfortable to them, you have to make him comfortable with something new. I have gotten to the point that I can dress myself (LOL!) but I still run things by the wife from haircuts, to clothing combinations.
Get a few GQ and contenmporary magazines and start showing him how fashion is changing. I had a hard time getting into the loose clothing and untucked shirts and such, but now that I am comfortable with change, I have no issues with it.
The big thing is getting him comfortable with change ... it's likely not about his clothing but going with what is comfortable and "safe" for him. Haveing to think about fashion is threatening to many men.
Force him into an outfit you like ... then REALLY let him know you like it ... much like pavlovs dogs, he will come around through conditioning. thats my two cents :)
Do ladies really care about how well a guy dresses?
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Just a little curious since I've been told I have exceptionally good taste when it comes to the fashion department, amongst other things. Designers I frequently wear are Ralph Lauren(almost exlusively), Banana Republic, Hugo Boss, etc. I'm into the really polished GQ look, ie. dress shirts with almost everything, ties just because, high end dress shoes with almost anything, high end fragrences to always smell nice, etc. So do ladies really care about how a guy looks, even if he treats you well and is always there for you. Now granted I'm a little high maintence in the fashion dept., but I always want to look my best and make an impression...one ever knows who they might see or run into :)
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Well to me I would say yes. I mean, even if the gu loves you but he looks like a slob, you will always be embarrassed. Besides it gives a first impression. I think guys should be more concerned with fashion then girls are because they actually have to (usually) ask the girl out. So even if the guy is nice but has a weird outfit with holes and wrinkles then he isn't as appealing. anyway, you know me and I'm big in fashion so if the guy doesn't have taste he doesn't have a date. Hope I helped!
Well to me I would say yes. I mean, even if the gu loves you but he looks like a slob, you will always be embarrassed. Besides it gives a first impression. I think guys should be more concerned with fashion then girls are because they actually have to (usually) ask the girl out. So even if the guy is nice but has a weird outfit with holes and wrinkles then he isn't as appealing. anyway, you know me and I'm big in fashion so if the guy doesn't have taste he doesn't have a date. Hope I helped!
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