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Rayla
I tried to tell my mother 1 year ago. She said I would get over and it was because I was raped. So she feels I have to trust men again but I have liked women before that experience. At first I thought I was bisexual because occasionally I will think some men are attractive but it is rare. I have only kissed a girl one time at a camp out but it felt right. I am trying to decide how to tell my family. I have a feeling it will be chalked up to the rape, bi polar and ptsd. My family is pentacostal. I am 23 and been wanting to come out for about eight years now. =/
Answer
Your trauma history DOES have a huge impact on your attractions. Survivors of Child Molestation and Rape have predictable and traceable brain alteration due to their experiences and while it wasn't sensitive of your mother to react the way she did, she's right in that Sexual Trauma has a MASSIVE roll in all sorts of sexual confusion, sexual acting out, sexual compulsiveness and addiction, etc.
I don't know if you're a lesbian.
I don't know if you're bisexual.
I don't know if you're straight.
I'm just telling you that Sexual Trauma AND BIPOLAR DISORDER lead to all sorts of sexual acting out and until you get your mental health under control, you shouldn't be "Coming Out" and slapping labels on yourself because you might not ACTUALLY be what you think you are in the long run.
Until you work on your mental health, you'll just continue to bounce around until one day you'll hit rock bottom and realize you've lived a miserable existence going from one attempt at affect regulation after another like a heroin addict constantly chasing the dragon.
I know, you'll respond with hostility and the "HOW DARE YOU!" bullshit that almost all trauma survivors initially respond with, but that knee-jerk reaction and not wanting to confront your trauma history because it hurts a LOT before things start getting better, but reality is reality... You need treatment...
LONG TERM BLOODY TREATMENT that will hurt like hell and you'll want to resist and you'll decide that the therapist is "Stupid" and "Doesn't TELL me what I need to do!" and eventually you'll end up like EVERYONE ELSE IN YOUR SHOES and either give in to the process or give up and live out your days fu*ked up and blaming everyone else for your feelings.
"This isn't what I'm ASKING about! Why can't she just answer the damn question?"
Why? Because your question is just a SYMPTOM of the far greater pathology that must be taken care of... When you actually start your recovery process, you'll find that "Coming Out" won't be as important as you think it is now.
âºRAINN | Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network | RAINN
http://www.rainn.org/
âºRecovering from Sexual Assault: Self Care for Survivors
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/sexual-assault-recovery/self-care-for-survivors
The following are steps you can take to help take care of yourself as you recover from the assault that you experienced.
âºNational Sexual Violence Resource Center
https://www.facebook.com/nsvrc?ref=ts&fref=ts
http://www.nsvrc.org/
âºSASH | The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
https://www.facebook.com/SASH246?fref=ts
http://www.sash.net/
âºSASH | Find a Therapist
http://www.sash.net/find-a-therapist/
⺠VAWnet | WHAT IS THE COST OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE?
http://www.vawnet.org/news/2013/02/cost-of-sexual-violence/
âºBipolar Disorder and Hypersexuality | bphope
http://www.bphope.com/item.aspx/522/opening-the-door-on-hypersexuality
âºPFLAG: Parents, Families, & Friends of Lesbians and Gays
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2
Your trauma history DOES have a huge impact on your attractions. Survivors of Child Molestation and Rape have predictable and traceable brain alteration due to their experiences and while it wasn't sensitive of your mother to react the way she did, she's right in that Sexual Trauma has a MASSIVE roll in all sorts of sexual confusion, sexual acting out, sexual compulsiveness and addiction, etc.
I don't know if you're a lesbian.
I don't know if you're bisexual.
I don't know if you're straight.
I'm just telling you that Sexual Trauma AND BIPOLAR DISORDER lead to all sorts of sexual acting out and until you get your mental health under control, you shouldn't be "Coming Out" and slapping labels on yourself because you might not ACTUALLY be what you think you are in the long run.
Until you work on your mental health, you'll just continue to bounce around until one day you'll hit rock bottom and realize you've lived a miserable existence going from one attempt at affect regulation after another like a heroin addict constantly chasing the dragon.
I know, you'll respond with hostility and the "HOW DARE YOU!" bullshit that almost all trauma survivors initially respond with, but that knee-jerk reaction and not wanting to confront your trauma history because it hurts a LOT before things start getting better, but reality is reality... You need treatment...
LONG TERM BLOODY TREATMENT that will hurt like hell and you'll want to resist and you'll decide that the therapist is "Stupid" and "Doesn't TELL me what I need to do!" and eventually you'll end up like EVERYONE ELSE IN YOUR SHOES and either give in to the process or give up and live out your days fu*ked up and blaming everyone else for your feelings.
"This isn't what I'm ASKING about! Why can't she just answer the damn question?"
Why? Because your question is just a SYMPTOM of the far greater pathology that must be taken care of... When you actually start your recovery process, you'll find that "Coming Out" won't be as important as you think it is now.
âºRAINN | Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network | RAINN
http://www.rainn.org/
âºRecovering from Sexual Assault: Self Care for Survivors
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/sexual-assault-recovery/self-care-for-survivors
The following are steps you can take to help take care of yourself as you recover from the assault that you experienced.
âºNational Sexual Violence Resource Center
https://www.facebook.com/nsvrc?ref=ts&fref=ts
http://www.nsvrc.org/
âºSASH | The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
https://www.facebook.com/SASH246?fref=ts
http://www.sash.net/
âºSASH | Find a Therapist
http://www.sash.net/find-a-therapist/
⺠VAWnet | WHAT IS THE COST OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE?
http://www.vawnet.org/news/2013/02/cost-of-sexual-violence/
âºBipolar Disorder and Hypersexuality | bphope
http://www.bphope.com/item.aspx/522/opening-the-door-on-hypersexuality
âºPFLAG: Parents, Families, & Friends of Lesbians and Gays
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2
Running 4 miles a day weight loss?
Taylor
If I run 4 miles a day and only drink water and no bread or junk food can I lose 10 lbs a month ?
I was thinking about increasing the mile amount each month
Any more tips ?
Answer
Congratulations! You're headed for health. A few tips to help...
Running 4 miles every other day will be sufficient to go to your natural, healthy weight. Mix in weights on the off days, and rest on the seventh. Don't forget you should be measuring your body fat percentage, not total weight. As you work out you also will be building size and density of muscle. Monitor your joints, especially knees, make sure your ankles are aligned, run on grass and barefoot when possible. Track coaches are familiar with these things, as are some doctors and trainers. A smooth, even stride on the balls of your feet is best. Well cushioned shoes actually train you to land on your heel, this jars your joints more. Research.
Overdoing endurance training may damage your heart and shorten life expectancy (Boston Globe, Kotz 8/5/2013)
http://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/2013/08/04/can-too-much-exercise-harm-heart-and-shorten-your-life/VLlkXGBN9f1t6raYmUSuPJ/story.html
You're right about the second consideration...what you're eating. Here are health concepts I'm distilling from easiest on down:
1. Water intake is the biggest, easiest, cheapest thing you can do for your health, research Water Calculator
2. Most people should take a multi-vitamin
3. Food combinations & eating for your body type are foundational (book: "Fit for Life")
http://www.alderbrooke.com/chart.php
4. Cut out manufactured Fructose (corn sugar) = POISON, and Aspartame: it's a contaminated (mercury) industrial byproduct that spikes blood-sugar levels, increases hunger, damages the liver, causes the intestines to leak feces causing body-wide inflamation leading to weight gain, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, dementia, effects female systems, and can limit growth. It makes up 15% of the avg diet, effecting 75M Americans; manufacturers mis-quote independent experts and refuse to ship samples to the FDA. It is the RED FLAG that the food is bad. This fructose is not the same as a fruit's complex fructose that is bound to fiber.
UltraWellness TV with Mark Hyman, M.D.; Barry Popkin Phd UNC School of Public Health
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E57QmRxNHRc
5. Minimize manufacturer-processed foods, research the ingredients & side effects
http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/health/jan-june13/food_04-29.html
6. Having raw foods and correctly cooking some of them maximizes your food value. There are healthier substitutes for anything, like homemade humus for mayo, nutritional yeast for cheese. I regularly cook chili with rice for a complete protein. Dairy raises your body's acid level and your body strips calcium from your bones to balance the Ph--plums can help this and reverse it in post-menapausal women.
(books: Forks Over Knives, Eat to Live, Engine 2 Diet, Formula for Health...lots on Youtube on these)
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=raw-veggies-are-healthier
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/david-katz-md/raw-food-diet_b_2015598.html
7. Eat natural oils (raw nuts, seeds, avocado), limit extracted oils, use healthier oils, avoid solid fats
http://blogs.miaminewtimes.com/shortorder/2012/03/oil-free_plant-based_diets_-_e.php
8. Organic is worth as much as financially possible, consider the alternatives when budgeting
GMOs - Ask your doctor if cancer is right for you (Natural News, Wells, 10/16/2012)
http://www.naturalnews.com/037621_gmo_side_effects_cancer.html
How to avoid genetic engineering at the grocery store (Farm Aid, 2011)
http://www.farmaid.org/site/apps/nlnet/content2.aspx?c=qlI5IhNVJsE&b=6281749&ct=9141885¬oc=1&msource=adwords&gclid=CPSMg4nA5rgCFQE6Qgod7DkATg
FOX Reporters Fired For Reporting the Truth About Monsanto Milk: most of the Milk in the USA and across some parts of the world is unsafe to drink due to Monsanto Corporationâs POSILAC®, which has been proven to be a cancer-causing growth hormone.(known in short as âBGHâ âBSTâ or ârBGHâ
Monsantoâs Roundup pesticides are linked to Parkinsonâs, Alzheimer's, autism and cancer; they control crop acreage 40% and create pesticide seeds: corn 73%, soybean 90%, cotton 80%, canola, papaya, sugar beets, alfalfa (beef); %s are U.S., info from multiple resources
Monsantoâs Roundup linked to mental disease, cancer; The World According To Monsanto, plus U.S. government members who work for Monsanto
http://www.naturalcuresnotmedicine.com/2013/08/the-world-according-to-monsanto-full.html
Congratulations! You're headed for health. A few tips to help...
Running 4 miles every other day will be sufficient to go to your natural, healthy weight. Mix in weights on the off days, and rest on the seventh. Don't forget you should be measuring your body fat percentage, not total weight. As you work out you also will be building size and density of muscle. Monitor your joints, especially knees, make sure your ankles are aligned, run on grass and barefoot when possible. Track coaches are familiar with these things, as are some doctors and trainers. A smooth, even stride on the balls of your feet is best. Well cushioned shoes actually train you to land on your heel, this jars your joints more. Research.
Overdoing endurance training may damage your heart and shorten life expectancy (Boston Globe, Kotz 8/5/2013)
http://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/2013/08/04/can-too-much-exercise-harm-heart-and-shorten-your-life/VLlkXGBN9f1t6raYmUSuPJ/story.html
You're right about the second consideration...what you're eating. Here are health concepts I'm distilling from easiest on down:
1. Water intake is the biggest, easiest, cheapest thing you can do for your health, research Water Calculator
2. Most people should take a multi-vitamin
3. Food combinations & eating for your body type are foundational (book: "Fit for Life")
http://www.alderbrooke.com/chart.php
4. Cut out manufactured Fructose (corn sugar) = POISON, and Aspartame: it's a contaminated (mercury) industrial byproduct that spikes blood-sugar levels, increases hunger, damages the liver, causes the intestines to leak feces causing body-wide inflamation leading to weight gain, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, dementia, effects female systems, and can limit growth. It makes up 15% of the avg diet, effecting 75M Americans; manufacturers mis-quote independent experts and refuse to ship samples to the FDA. It is the RED FLAG that the food is bad. This fructose is not the same as a fruit's complex fructose that is bound to fiber.
UltraWellness TV with Mark Hyman, M.D.; Barry Popkin Phd UNC School of Public Health
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E57QmRxNHRc
5. Minimize manufacturer-processed foods, research the ingredients & side effects
http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/health/jan-june13/food_04-29.html
6. Having raw foods and correctly cooking some of them maximizes your food value. There are healthier substitutes for anything, like homemade humus for mayo, nutritional yeast for cheese. I regularly cook chili with rice for a complete protein. Dairy raises your body's acid level and your body strips calcium from your bones to balance the Ph--plums can help this and reverse it in post-menapausal women.
(books: Forks Over Knives, Eat to Live, Engine 2 Diet, Formula for Health...lots on Youtube on these)
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=raw-veggies-are-healthier
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/david-katz-md/raw-food-diet_b_2015598.html
7. Eat natural oils (raw nuts, seeds, avocado), limit extracted oils, use healthier oils, avoid solid fats
http://blogs.miaminewtimes.com/shortorder/2012/03/oil-free_plant-based_diets_-_e.php
8. Organic is worth as much as financially possible, consider the alternatives when budgeting
GMOs - Ask your doctor if cancer is right for you (Natural News, Wells, 10/16/2012)
http://www.naturalnews.com/037621_gmo_side_effects_cancer.html
How to avoid genetic engineering at the grocery store (Farm Aid, 2011)
http://www.farmaid.org/site/apps/nlnet/content2.aspx?c=qlI5IhNVJsE&b=6281749&ct=9141885¬oc=1&msource=adwords&gclid=CPSMg4nA5rgCFQE6Qgod7DkATg
FOX Reporters Fired For Reporting the Truth About Monsanto Milk: most of the Milk in the USA and across some parts of the world is unsafe to drink due to Monsanto Corporationâs POSILAC®, which has been proven to be a cancer-causing growth hormone.(known in short as âBGHâ âBSTâ or ârBGHâ
Monsantoâs Roundup pesticides are linked to Parkinsonâs, Alzheimer's, autism and cancer; they control crop acreage 40% and create pesticide seeds: corn 73%, soybean 90%, cotton 80%, canola, papaya, sugar beets, alfalfa (beef); %s are U.S., info from multiple resources
Monsantoâs Roundup linked to mental disease, cancer; The World According To Monsanto, plus U.S. government members who work for Monsanto
http://www.naturalcuresnotmedicine.com/2013/08/the-world-according-to-monsanto-full.html
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