Asian girls, this is wierd, but she tells me it's her culture.?

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Jim_atthed

My Filipina fiance started calling me "master" after we got engaged and I told her that was a bad idea but she says it's her culture that's what the wife calls her husband. it's like "Master of the household" So I'm living in a funny episode of I Dream of Genie right now. She's not all oppressed and stuff either she is independent, smarter then me, and highly educated. She just wants to do it that way so that's how it's going now.

Is that really common in your culture? Cause I'm blushing to death and hoping she never says it in public. Also when she says it I have a sudden urge to buy her anything she wants.

Funny story, my mom was in my house while i was at work and saw one of her love letters to me where she called me that and threw a fit. it was hilarious.

I am very much for women's rights and have never been in a situation like this. I was raised by a feminist.

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I have been to the Philippines and none of the married ladies there called their husbands like that, at least not in public. However they by and large did seem to be very respectful towards their husbands, and the really appreciated it if their husband was nice with them. A large percent of the guys there are losers that smoke, drink and gamble away what little money they build up, and yes, sadly wife beating is not uncommon there. So yes she might have a submissive fetish or something or maybe she just appreciates a good guy - a quality rarely present in western women these days.

I say treat her nice but watch the spending (remember Imelda Marcos that had like a few million shoes) filipinas can be sweet and loving but have no problem spending money on dumb stuff... Enjoy the ego rush and do not let you mom ruin her - remember you mom may think it is fun to spread feminazism but YOU have to live with the woman and share your future with her. And do not let you mom go rumaging around your personal papers - that is really not good.

Show hear some appreciation by giving her non monetary praise and teach her how to manage money well for herself and your family. Encourage her to grow as person, visit new places and improve her career. Filipinos are hard working and good people but they are really bad with money (read the history of the place and you can see how trillions of dollars in investment and foriegn aid was squandered whilst poorer countries around the Philippines rocketed to success with a lot less help). Be a good 'master' and teach her to be a wise queen and you will be way better off in the long run, else you may end up training a leach or golddigger...

Beware... Be smart.

Hypothetically, would you ask for independence in 1946 from the US government?

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If you were alive then and one of the people of the Philippines. Would you go with Pres. Quezon rhetoric speeches that "he rather see the Philippines run like hell by the Filipinos than run like heaven by the Americans"? I would definitely say NO. The only years the Philippines enjoy such high prestige was in the 1950's and the 60's through out Southeast Asia. When Marcos came to the picture all hell broke loose and until now we felt the after shock of it all. If we are run by the US government they would proclaim the Philippines as one of their States just like Alabama or other States like Hawaii or Guam etc...a governor obviously will run the affair of the Philippines island and the staff and the workers would still be the Filipinos but this time we enjoy the privileges of the ordinary Americans do in the mainland. I would rather shine the shoes of the Americans if the country is running smoothly and in order rather than see the Philippines like this. Would you? Thousands of Filipino are moving to the US and millions of Filipinos are now considered OFW, overseas contract workers working for Arabs and other nationalities with cruelty and lots of pain just to get those dollars back home to feed their love ones in the Philippines. How ironic isn't it. Nuon nakahiga na tayo sa kama, mas ginusto pa natin ang mahiga sa sahid. Of course for some who will say we rather be free. Masarap maging malaya. Kaso if the people who will run the country doesn't know how to run it and worst will rob the people instead. Until now we are still guided and supervise by the US government. If not for the US government, Vietnam or even China has invaded us long time ago. We do not have enough manpower or even decent equipment to fight any invasion. What are we going to fight with, stick and carrots? Even some of the people I talk with in the past said we are better if we kept to be one of the States of the US govenrment then. I guess to me it is only obvious we are bound for hell because of trusting our own kind, the Filipinos. Even if P-noy make good for this 6 years, we never know if the next President is another GLORIA ARROYO, so another agonizing 6 years once again. We sing, dance, listen to US music and other hip-hop, break dancing etc....where do we get this with the US culture that we keep on copying and our own culture is lost in the clouds above us. Let me see your different point of view, and for those eccentric ones or hard to follow individual well if you like to discuss what you think, go ahead. Enjoy the moment. Thanks
The other argument of the Filipinos against the idea before is that they said the US government will steal the natural resources of the Philippines. Why steal it when they can promote or even make the Philippines main US and other European destination. Why they will remove Taal or Mayon volcanoes and move them somewhere in Southern Carolina? Ridiculous. The beaches we have will be well guarded by the US coast guard perhaps and the desputed Spratley island could have been a tourist vacation by now if we are a US State. We have no NPA, no abu sayyaf, no MILF or other terrorist jumping or hopping from one island to another to reach Sulu or Tawi tawi to bomb Mindanao. One thing puzzle me is that we are branded as one of the best workers around the world, efficient and well organized but we cannot run smoothly a government like the Philippines. Ironic isn't it? Doesn't this tell you something is wrong with us?

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I asked myself what is the reason why Pres. Quezon said that, for sure he had his reason or reasons to say those things. One of them (I can only guess); we should not forget that his ancestors are Spanish. I can only tell from my own experience. Because of your question, I remember a conversation I had with a Spanish woman just this year about Spain colonizing the Philippines, believe me, it was done carefully and diplomatic. There is one thing that she said that woke my attention: "Spain lost the Philippines because the Americans took it all". The triangle Spain, Philippines and America, even now a days is a sensitive matter. Now, going back to this quote, at the end he died in NY during his exile.
Colonizing a country is a crime. The Philippines has been the interest of many. Other countries were arguing who will get which part of the Philippines, does this ring a bell to you? The Philippines have suffered a lot that even the new generation can feel the pain after all this years. There is also a saying: One should not leave a winning team, but will always and someone will. The Philippines, with its own natural resources can survive by its own and that is a good basis for Independence. There is also a saying: No man is an island. Now comes the exchange of products, modernization and globalization.
As for me, I also have a dream. I dream that the Philippines will prosper not only because of the help from others which is costly at the long run, but, from Filipinos to Filipinos, to mature, tolerant, be productive because with productivity and creativity, it can come out something new Made in the Philippines. It will not only boost self worth but also respect which the Philippines/Filipinos really do need.
Wouldn't that be nice to imagine, if people in other countries, when they look around in their own homes for start, from the smallest to the biggest, from less to most important objects that they have, giving them small Philippine flag stickers and let them stick it at those that are made in the Philippines and as a result, their homes are full of it? Nice isn't it. Impossible?
I do understand your despair and we only have one short life to live which for many, a struggle and I'm not here to judge. You rather polish the Americans' shoes than having a Philippines like this. That is OK, but what is wrong with polishing Filipino shoes?

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